You Can Be Successful Without a Mentor - The Muse

You Can Be Successful Without a Mentor - The MuseYou Can Be Successful Without a Mentor You hear a lot of talk about the benefits of mentorship, particularly when it comes to your career. And, for good reason. I think that having a resource you can lean on when you need a little direction or a good, old-fashioned confidence boost can be a great thing.However, confession time I have never had an official mentor of my own. Thats right- I preach the value of having one all day long. But, its something Ive never actually put in practice myself.For a long time, this made me feel like I was missing out on something- like I was only sort of doing this whole career thing, because I didnt have my very own Mr. Miyagi offering me insightful guidance and verifying my every work-related decision. One day, I thought, Ill finally cross paths with this one knowledgeable person, and the whole rest of my professional identity will fall into place.But, then I realized something important I dont want on e. In fact, I dont even think I need one. Forgive my shameless gloating, but Ive managed to build a pretty decent career for myself without this all-knowing mastermind forging the path ahead of me. Now, thats not to say I dont need a little advice and encouragement every now and then (Im only human, after all). But, Ive learned that I dont need a guru up on a pedestal in order to get that. Ive actually found a few different tactics and strategies that help me to keep moving forward, without putting all of my faith in one particular person. So, heres how I managed to have a thriving career- without that special someone helping me along.1. I Built a Network of ResourcesLike I said, just because I dont want a mentor per se, doesnt mean I never need any advice or instruction. There are plenty of times (more than Id care to admit, actually) when I just want to talk through my career problems or decisions with someone else.However, I quickly realized that there wasnt one singular person o ut there who could help me with every single roadblock I encountered. Were all different, with different skill tischsets and experiences. And, only looking to one particular person each and every time I needed help would only limit and frustrate me- and likely my mentor, as well.So, instead of selecting one individual to act as my career guide and weigh in on my career moves, I tapped into my network in order to build my own web of what Ill call mini mentors. If I encounter a glitch with one of my websites, I reach out to my old high school friend who now works as a developer. If I need some writing advice or tips for dealing with a difficult client, Ive learned to lean on my fellow writers and editors- like my gruppe of co-workers here at The Muse. If Im feeling completely discouraged and disheartened? Lets face it- I call my mom. This diversified knowledge and expertise has been so helpful to me, and Im just not confident that I couldve gotten all of it with the help of just one p erson. Nobody can know absolutely everything. 2. I Was ProactiveHeres one big benefit I know that mentors provide They help to nudge you in the right direction. Even if something terrifies you, they can typically give you the encouragement- and ultimately, the push- you need to do it anyway. However, its important to realize that your advisor can really only push you so far. In the end, its up to you to take the leap, whether someone is encouraging you to do so or not.Needless to say, Ive learned the importance of grabbing the bull by the horns and being proactive in my own career. Ive taken online courses to beef up skills that were lacking. Ive read books and online articles to expand my knowledge of specific topics. Ive set up meetings with influencers in my career field. Ive chased raises and promotions. I quit my traditional, 9-to-5 job without a backup plan. These are all things a mentor wouldve likely eventually pushed me to do. And, admittedly, those nudges and words of affi rmation wouldve been appreciated at times. However, I counted on myself to determine what was important enough to accomplish- rather than looking to someone else to tell me which chess piece to move next. That self-reliance was terrifying most of the time, and it inspired a ridiculous amount of nail-biting. But, its served to make me more confident in my work, my capabilities, and my decisions. 3. I Trusted My GutIm someone who has the tendency to seek confirmation that Im doing things right. Even if its a small assignment or a completely minor detail, I thrive on those, Yep, youve got it verifications.Its for this very reason that I know having one specific mentor would be a badeanstalt thing for me. Im self-aware enough to know that Id look to that person to put his or her stamp of approval on every single decision I make. Id feel shaky and unsure without it. And, my hypothetical advisor would likely grow tired of my incessant requests for approval. Theres a big difference between guiding and hand-holding, after all. Even if you have a mentor that you adore and admire, its crucial that you recognize that he or she doesnt have a crystal ball. Perhaps hes been in your exact situation before, but theres still no guarantee that your path will exactly mirror his. Youll have your own individual experience- even if you follow every single step he outlines for you.So, instead of looking to one person to give me a breakdown of how things might play out, Ive learned to trust my own gut when making career decisions. Your intuition and your conscience exist for a reason. If you experience that butterflies in your stomach feeling that tells you somethings not quite right, its up to you to trust your instincts- regardless of what anyone around you has to say about it. Learning to rely on my own intuition has helped me immensely throughout my career, and its a trait I wouldve undoubtedly squelched and stifled by having a mentor.I wont argue that mentorship comes with its f air share of great benefits. And, if youre someone who needs and wants a trusted advisor in your career, then more power to youBut, if youre someone like me who has never felt a desire to look to that one expert mastermind to give you the go-ahead on every career-related decision you make? Well, dont get bent out of shape and trick yourself into thinking youre coming up short. Theres no rulebook that states you absolutely need one in order to attain success. Take it from me- you can still do alright for yourself without an official mentor in your corner. Do you have one person that you look to when you need a little guidance? Or, are you like me and avoid relying on one specific person? Let me know on Twitter